I was absolutely stunned and speechless around this time last week when my astoundingly beautiful dark skinned four year old allowed those four words to stroll out of her mouth.
Completely astonished, all I could say at that point was, “that is simply not true.” I just found myself wondering where she could have heard such a thing.
A short few days later she dissolved to tears simply because her hair couldn’t shake like the lovely long plaits of her equally dark skinned best friend. This time around I probed some more to see where her mind was really at.
The conversation started with me asking her if she wanted her hair in corn rows or singles. and she carefully explained to me that she wanted big plaits just like her best friend’s (whose name so happens to be incredibly similar to hers). I then explained to her that it was not possible as their hair was not the same lenght or texture.
As it turned out she did not think that her short hair was pretty, and she in turn gave me a list of the children in her pre-school group that she deemed had pretty hair.
This is where I decided it was time for a chat. A little later the evening I explained to my little angel that every colour in the entire universe was beautiful and each colour and person, though unique, has a purpose. I then explained that no matter the texture or length of a persons hair doesn’t make it any more or less beautiful than the other, The important thing is to keep it healthy.
I plan to have multiple convos and activities with her about these topics.
I must say the last person I expected to hear those statements from was a four year old.
How would you handle a similar situation?